{"id":1697,"date":"2026-10-15T23:37:57","date_gmt":"2026-10-15T23:37:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3.jpg"},"modified":"2026-10-15T23:38:23","modified_gmt":"2026-10-15T23:38:23","slug":"im3","status":"inherit","type":"attachment","link":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/26-yasinda-gelinim-meger-benim-kaybettigim-uvey\/im3\/","title":{"rendered":"26 ya\u015f\u0131nda gelinim me\u011fer benim kaybetti\u011fim \u00fcvey"},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"class_list":["post-1697","attachment","type-attachment","status-inherit","hentry"],"description":{"rendered":"<p class=\"attachment\"><a href='https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-300x300.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n"},"caption":{"rendered":"<p>Ad\u0131 \u0130pekti.<\/p>\n<p>Ben onun biyolojik dedesi de\u011fildim.<\/p>\n<p>Ama \u0130pek d\u00fcnyaya geldi\u011fi g\u00fcnden itibaren bana \u201cdede\u201d demeyi \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Ona ilk bisikletini ben alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lk kez parka ben g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm.<\/p>\n<p>Geceleri ate\u015fi \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131nda ben beklemi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Benim i\u00e7in kan ba\u011f\u0131 hi\u00e7bir zaman \u00f6nemli olmad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130pek benim torunumdu.<\/p>\n<p>Yedi ya\u015f\u0131na girdi\u011finde ona yar\u0131m ay \u015feklinde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir kolye alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Arkas\u0131na da,<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDedenden \u0130pek\u2019e.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>yazd\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Bir y\u0131l sonra hayat\u0131m\u0131z darmada\u011f\u0131n oldu.<\/p>\n<p>Selma, Aylin ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u0130pek \u015fehir d\u0131\u015f\u0131na giderken b\u00fcy\u00fck bir trafik kazas\u0131 ge\u00e7irdiler.<\/p>\n<p>Selma olay yerinde hayat\u0131n\u0131 kaybetti.<\/p>\n<p>Aylin a\u011f\u0131r yaral\u0131 olarak hastaneye kald\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131 fakat birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn sonra onu da kaybettik.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130pek ise ortadan kaybolmu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n<p>Kazadan sa\u011f \u00e7\u0131kan baz\u0131 yolcular farkl\u0131 hastanelere g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f, kay\u0131tlar birbirine kar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Aylar boyunca \u0130pek\u2019i arad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Polise gittim.<\/p>\n<p>Hastaneleri dola\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuk esirgeme kurumlar\u0131na ba\u015fvurdum.<\/p>\n<p>Gazetelere ilan verdim.<\/p>\n<p>Her g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funda onu arad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Ama hi\u00e7bir iz bulamad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7ti.<\/p>\n<p>Hayat devam etti.<\/p>\n<p>Taylan b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Ama ben \u0130pek\u2019i hi\u00e7bir zaman unutmad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eimdi kar\u015f\u0131mda o\u011flumun kar\u0131s\u0131 duruyordu.<\/p>\n<p>Ve boynunda \u0130pek\u2019e verdi\u011fim kolye vard\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNisan\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Sesim titriyordu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cO kolyeyi nereden buldun?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nisan\u2019\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fc bir anda ciddile\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Elini kolyesinin \u00fczerine koydu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7ocuklu\u011fumdan beri bende.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cArkas\u0131nda bir yaz\u0131 var m\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Uzun s\u00fcre sustu.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra g\u00f6zlerinin doldu\u011funu g\u00f6rd\u00fcm.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cVar.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNedir?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Dudaklar\u0131 titredi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDedenden \u0130pek\u2019e.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Dizlerim \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcld\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Sandalyeye oturdum.<\/p>\n<p>O anda mutfa\u011f\u0131n duvarlar\u0131 \u00fczerime geliyormu\u015f gibi hissettim.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u0130pek\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bu ismi otuz y\u0131l sonra ilk kez bu kadar umutla s\u00f6ylemi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan g\u00f6zlerini kapatt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Tam o s\u0131rada Taylan i\u00e7eri girdi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNe oldu size?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nisan bana bakt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra beklemedi\u011fim bir \u015fey s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBen sizin kim oldu\u011funuzu zaten biliyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 kald\u0131rd\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNe zamand\u0131r?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cD\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00f6nce \u00f6\u011frendim.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Taylan \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131kla e\u015fine bakt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan anlatmaya ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Kazadan sonra onu bulan ki\u015filer bir hastaneye g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015fler.<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u015f\u0131ndaki darbe nedeniyle uzun s\u00fcre konu\u015famam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Ad\u0131n\u0131 bile tam hat\u0131rlayam\u0131yormu\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>\u00dczerinde kimlik yokmu\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Tek sahip oldu\u011fu \u015fey boynundaki kolyeymi\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Kay\u0131t karma\u015fas\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ailesine ula\u015f\u0131lamam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Aylar sonra koruyucu aileye verilmi\u015f, ard\u0131ndan evlat edinilmi\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Yeni ailesi ona Nisan ad\u0131n\u0131 vermi\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Onu b\u00fcy\u00fcten anne ve babas\u0131, on sekiz ya\u015f\u0131na geldi\u011finde ger\u00e7e\u011fi a\u00e7\u0131klam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan y\u0131llarca biyolojik ailesini ara\u015ft\u0131rm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Ama elindeki bilgiler \u00e7ok azm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cTaylan\u2019la tan\u0131\u015fana kadar hi\u00e7bir \u015fey bilmiyordum,\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSonra sizin soyad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 duydum. Bir g\u00fcn Taylan eski aile foto\u011fraflar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bana bakt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFoto\u011fraflardan birinde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u0131z sizin omuzlar\u0131n\u0131za oturmu\u015ftu.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nefesim kesildi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHat\u0131rlad\u0131n m\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHay\u0131r,\u201d dedi. \u201cAma foto\u011fraf\u0131n arkas\u0131nda \u0130pek yaz\u0131yordu.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nisan daha sonra eski dosyalar\u0131na bakm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Kazan\u0131n tarihi ile aile kay\u0131tlar\u0131 uyu\u015fmu\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra internette y\u0131llar \u00f6nce verilmi\u015f bir gazete ilan\u0131na ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130landa benim ismim varm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPeki neden bana s\u00f6ylemedin?\u201d diye sordum.<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6zlerinden ya\u015flar s\u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ya yanl\u0131\u015fsam diye korktum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bir s\u00fcre sustu.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra,<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBir de beni istemeyece\u011finizden korktum,\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n<p>O c\u00fcmle i\u00e7imi parampar\u00e7a etti.<\/p>\n<p>Aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u0130stememek mi?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00dcst kattaki odama \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u0131llard\u0131r saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131m eski sand\u0131\u011f\u0131 indirdim.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130\u00e7inden gazeteleri, polis kay\u0131tlar\u0131n\u0131 ve kay\u0131p ilanlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>En \u00fcstte k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u0130pek\u2019in foto\u011fraf\u0131 vard\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Alt\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck harflerle:<\/p>\n<p>KAYIP \u00c7OCUK<\/p>\n<p>yaz\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lan\u0131n kenar\u0131na kendi elimle bir not d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm:<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u0130pek, deden seni bekliyor. Eve d\u00f6n.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nisan k\u00e2\u011f\u0131d\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnce elleri titremeye ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBunu ger\u00e7ekten y\u0131llarca saklad\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHer \u015feyi saklad\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Sonra foto\u011fraflar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lk do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fc\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Bisiklete bindi\u011fi g\u00fcn\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Parkta \u00e7ekilmi\u015f foto\u011fraf\u0131m\u0131z\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Nisan dizlerinin \u00fczerine \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Foto\u011fraflardan birine dokundu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBu sal\u0131nca\u011f\u0131 hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Kalbim duracak gibi oldu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGer\u00e7ekten mi?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBir de siz bana s\u00fcrekli \u2018k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ser\u00e7em\u2019 derdiniz.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Art\u0131k kendimi tutamad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>A\u011flamaya ba\u015flad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEvet,\u201d dedim. \u201cSana hep \u00f6yle derdim.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nisan bana sar\u0131ld\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Otuz y\u0131l sonra kay\u0131p torunum yeniden kollar\u0131mdayd\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Kan\u0131mdan de\u011fildi.<\/p>\n<p>Ama bunun hi\u00e7bir \u00f6nemi yoktu.<\/p>\n<p>Tam o s\u0131rada Taylan bo\u011faz\u0131n\u0131 temizledi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYani bir dakika\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u0130kimiz ona bakt\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>Ka\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7atm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNisan senin \u00fcvey torunun mu?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEvet.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Taylan bir an donup kald\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra h\u0131zl\u0131ca,<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAma aram\u0131zda kan ba\u011f\u0131 yok, de\u011fil mi?\u201d diye sordu.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lk kez o g\u00fcn kahkaha att\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYok o\u011flum. Nisan, Selma\u2019n\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fuydu. Seninle hi\u00e7bir biyolojik ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131z yok.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Taylan derin bir nefes ald\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan da g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n aras\u0131ndan g\u00fclmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>O g\u00fcn ak\u015fama kadar konu\u015ftuk.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan \u00e7ocuklu\u011fundan hat\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck par\u00e7alar\u0131 anlatt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Evin bah\u00e7esindeki dut a\u011fac\u0131n\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ona ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bisikleti\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ya\u011fmurlu gecelerde ona anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131m masallar\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n<p>En sonunda kar\u015f\u0131ma oturdu.<\/p>\n<p>Uzun s\u00fcre sustu.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra,<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSize yine dede diyebilir miyim?\u201d diye sordu.<\/p>\n<p>Yetmi\u015f iki ya\u015f\u0131nda bir adam\u0131n kalbi o anda yeniden gen\u00e7le\u015febilir mi?<\/p>\n<p>Benimki gen\u00e7le\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Elini tuttum.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBen otuz y\u0131ld\u0131r bunu duymay\u0131 bekliyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Aradan iki y\u0131l ge\u00e7ti.<\/p>\n<p>Taylan ile Nisan\u2019\u0131n \u015fimdi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u0131zlar\u0131 var.<\/p>\n<p>Ad\u0131n\u0131 Aylin koydular.<\/p>\n<p>Ge\u00e7en hafta torunumun \u00e7ocu\u011funu kuca\u011f\u0131ma ald\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Nisan yan\u0131ma gelip ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 omzuma yaslad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBiliyor musun dede,\u201d dedi, \u201chayat bazen insan\u0131 ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 yere geri getiriyor.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ben ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 sallad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Ama y\u0131llar bana ba\u015fka bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Aile olmak yaln\u0131zca ayn\u0131 kan\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131mak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n<p>Bazen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun ate\u015fli gecesinde ba\u015f\u0131nda beklemektir.<\/p>\n<p>Bazen y\u0131llarca bir sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inde onun foto\u011fraflar\u0131n\u0131 saklamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Bazen de otuz y\u0131l boyunca d\u00f6nmeyece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz birine kalbinizde h\u00e2l\u00e2 yer ay\u0131rmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ben \u0130pek\u2019in ger\u00e7ek dedesi de\u011fildim.<\/p>\n<p>Ama onu ger\u00e7ekten sevmi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Belki de bu y\u00fczden hayat, y\u0131llar sonra onu yeniden kap\u0131ma getirdi.<\/p>\n<p>\u00dcstelik bu kez yabanc\u0131 biri olarak de\u011fil\u2026<\/p>\n<p>O\u011flumun gelini olarak.<\/p>\n<p>O g\u00fcn anlad\u0131m ki baz\u0131 insanlar ailemize do\u011farak girmez.<\/p>\n<p>Baz\u0131lar\u0131 sevgimizle ailemiz olur.<\/p>\n<p>Ve ger\u00e7ek sevgi, aradan ka\u00e7 y\u0131l ge\u00e7erse ge\u00e7sin, eve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yolunu asla unutmaz.<\/p>\n"},"alt_text":"","media_type":"image","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","media_details":{"width":1024,"height":1024,"file":"2026\/10\/im3.jpg","filesize":71616,"sizes":{"medium":{"file":"im3-300x300.jpg","width":300,"height":300,"filesize":19326,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-300x300.jpg"},"thumbnail":{"file":"im3-150x150.jpg","width":150,"height":150,"filesize":6518,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-150x150.jpg"},"medium_large":{"file":"im3-768x768.jpg","width":768,"height":768,"filesize":84747,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3-768x768.jpg"},"full":{"file":"im3.jpg","width":1024,"height":1024,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3.jpg"}},"image_meta":{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0","keywords":[],"alt":""}},"post":1695,"source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/im3.jpg","filename":"im3.jpg","filesize":71616,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1697","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/attachment"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1697"}],"wp:attached-to":[{"embeddable":true,"post_type":"post","id":1695,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1695"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}