{"id":1705,"date":"2026-10-16T19:17:00","date_gmt":"2026-10-16T19:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg"},"modified":"2026-10-16T19:17:28","modified_gmt":"2026-10-16T19:17:28","slug":"ggtr-6","status":"inherit","type":"attachment","link":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/kocam-ihanetimi-ogrendigi-gunden-sonra-bana-18-yil-dokunmadi-ama-doktorun-ortaya-cikardigi-ameliyat-kaydi-butun-hayatimi-degistirdi\/ggtr-6\/","title":{"rendered":"Kocam \u0130hanetimi \u00d6\u011frendi\u011fi G\u00fcnden Sonra Bana 18 Y\u0131l Dokunmad\u0131, Ama Doktorun Ortaya \u00c7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131 Ameliyat Kayd\u0131 B\u00fct\u00fcn Hayat\u0131m\u0131 De\u011fi\u015ftirdi"},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"class_list":["post-1705","attachment","type-attachment","status-inherit","hentry"],"description":{"rendered":"<p class=\"attachment\"><a href='https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" src=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-300x199.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-768x508.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg 784w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n"},"caption":{"rendered":"<p>Kocam onu aldatt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendikten sonra bir daha bana dokunmad\u0131. Tam 18 y\u0131l boyunca ayn\u0131 evde, birbirini tan\u0131mayan iki yabanc\u0131 gibi ya\u015fad\u0131k. Ta ki emekli olduktan sonra gitti\u011fim s\u0131radan bir doktor muayenesinde, hi\u00e7 hat\u0131rlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir ameliyat hakk\u0131nda sorular sorulana kadar.<\/p>\n<p>Doktorumun s\u00f6ylediklerini kocama anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda y\u00fcz\u00fcndeki ifade bir anda de\u011fi\u015fti. Ard\u0131ndan neredeyse yirmi y\u0131ld\u0131r kilitli tuttu\u011fu dosya dolab\u0131n\u0131n anahtar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131 ve hayat\u0131m\u0131 alt\u00fcst edecek o c\u00fcmleyi kurdu:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNermin, sana y\u0131llar \u00f6nce s\u00f6ylemem gereken bir \u015fey var.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her \u015fey 2008 y\u0131l\u0131n\u0131n ilkbahar\u0131nda ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Bir sabah kahvalt\u0131 masas\u0131na oturdu\u011fumda kocam Sel\u00e7uk, \u00f6n\u00fcme yazd\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir e-posta b\u0131rakt\u0131. Sayfaya g\u00f6z att\u0131\u011f\u0131m anda y\u00fcz\u00fcmdeki b\u00fct\u00fcn kan \u00e7ekildi. Ba\u015fka bir adamla yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m yaz\u0131\u015fmalard\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNe kadar zamand\u0131r?\u201d diye sordu.<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 e\u011fdim.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cD\u00f6rt ayd\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Sel\u00e7uk hi\u00e7bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemeden merdivenlere bakt\u0131. On d\u00f6rt ya\u015f\u0131ndaki o\u011flumuz Ozan, \u00fcst katta okula haz\u0131rlan\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra ceketini ald\u0131 ve i\u015fe gitti.<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u011f\u0131rmad\u0131. Hakaret etmedi. Bo\u015fanmak istedi\u011fini s\u00f6ylemedi. Fakat o sabah evimizde bir \u015fey sonsuza kadar de\u011fi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Sel\u00e7uk faturalar\u0131 \u00f6demeye, bozulan e\u015fyalar\u0131 tamir etmeye, Ozan\u2019\u0131n okul toplant\u0131lar\u0131na kat\u0131lmaya devam etti. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda sorumluluk sahibi bir e\u015f ve babayd\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Ama benimle aras\u0131na g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir duvar \u00f6rm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Onu aldatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131n hi\u00e7bir mazereti olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyordum. Sonraki y\u0131llarda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m her yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, her so\u011fuk bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 hak etti\u011fim bir ceza olarak g\u00f6rmemin nedeni de buydu.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkim Bora ad\u0131nda bir adamla ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Babam vefat etti\u011finde, \u0130zmir\u2019deki aile \u015firketimizden ve baz\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131nmazlardan bana miras kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ancak hesaplar\u0131 incelemeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131mda a\u00e7\u0131klayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m para \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015flar\u0131 fark ettim.<\/p>\n<p>Bora, mali konularda dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyerek kar\u015f\u0131ma \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. Belgeleri anlamama yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Sab\u0131rl\u0131yd\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimi dinliyordu ve uzun zamand\u0131r kimsenin g\u00f6stermedi\u011fi ilgiyi g\u00f6steriyordu.<\/p>\n<p>Ben de bu ilgiyi a\u015fkla kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Sel\u00e7uk ili\u015fkimizi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde Bora ortadan kayboldu. Telefonu kapand\u0131. Bulu\u015ftu\u011fumuz k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ofis bo\u015falt\u0131ld\u0131. Onun ger\u00e7ek hayat\u0131 hakk\u0131nda sand\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan \u00e7ok daha az \u015fey bildi\u011fimi o zaman fark ettim.<\/p>\n<p>Zaten uzun s\u00fcredir depresyonla m\u00fccadele ediyordum. Ya\u015fananlar\u0131n ard\u0131ndan ruhsal durumum h\u0131zla k\u00f6t\u00fcle\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>O ilkbaharda a\u011f\u0131r bir kriz ge\u00e7irdim ve \u00e7ok miktarda ila\u00e7 alarak hayat\u0131ma son vermeye kalk\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Beni Sel\u00e7uk buldu.<\/p>\n<p>Hastanede ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim g\u00fcnlerden geriye yaln\u0131zca par\u00e7alar kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Beyaz bir tavan, psikiyatri doktorunun sakin sesi, karn\u0131m\u0131n \u00fczerindeki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck pansumanlar\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Sel\u00e7uk, doktorlar\u0131n i\u00e7 kanama tespit etti\u011fini ve acil ameliyata al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u0130la\u00e7lardan m\u0131 olmu\u015f?\u201d diye sormu\u015ftum.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDoktorlar gerekeni yapt\u0131. Sen iyile\u015fmene bak.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cKarn\u0131mdaki kesikler neden var?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cKanaman\u0131n nereden geldi\u011fini g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in karn\u0131na bakmalar\u0131 gerekmi\u015f.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 anlatmad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Ben de hem yorgunlu\u011fumdan hem utanc\u0131mdan sorular\u0131m\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmedim.<\/p>\n<p>Hastaneden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f belgelerimle kontrol randevular\u0131m\u0131 Sel\u00e7uk takip ediyordu. Psikiyatrik tedavime devam ettim ancak ameliyat sonras\u0131 kontrollerim ertelenen randevular ve kar\u0131\u015fan evraklar aras\u0131nda unutuldu.<\/p>\n<p>Eve d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde e\u015fyalar\u0131m\u0131 misafir odas\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131m\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBurada daha rahat dinlenirsin,\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n<p>O odada tam 18 y\u0131l kald\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Ozan b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc, \u00fcniversiteyi bitirdi ve kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 kurdu. Bayramlarda ailece sofraya oturuyor, \u00f6zel g\u00fcnlerde g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyor, gerekti\u011finde birlikte foto\u011fraf \u00e7ektiriyorduk.<\/p>\n<p>Ama geceleri ayr\u0131 odalar\u0131n kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 kapat\u0131yorduk.<\/p>\n<p>Sel\u00e7uk bana hi\u00e7bir zaman a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a hakaret etmedi. Yine de koridorda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda koluma yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla de\u011fmemek i\u00e7in kenara \u00e7ekilirdi.<\/p>\n<p>Bir g\u00fcn Ozan, hen\u00fcz ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndayken, neden babas\u0131n\u0131n beni hi\u00e7 \u00f6pmedi\u011fini sormu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEvlilik zamanla de\u011fi\u015fir, o\u011flum,\u201d demi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u00fcz\u00fcme bakmadan ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7evirmi\u015fti. On d\u00f6rt ya\u015f\u0131nda olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen bunun ger\u00e7ek bir cevap olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Oysa Sel\u00e7uk\u2019la bir zamanlar birbirimizden ayr\u0131 kalmaya dayanamazd\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>Ozan\u2019\u0131 d\u00fcnyaya getirebilmek i\u00e7in y\u0131llarca u\u011fra\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. T\u00fcp bebek tedavileri, hastane koridorlar\u0131nda ge\u00e7irilen saatler, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z denemeler ve g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Sonunda o\u011flumuza kavu\u015fmu\u015ftuk.<\/p>\n<p>Tedavi s\u0131ras\u0131nda olu\u015fturulan birka\u00e7 embriyomuz daha dondurularak saklanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u0130leride yeniden \u00e7ocuk sahibi olabilece\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek y\u0131llarca saklama \u00fccretlerini \u00f6demi\u015ftik.<\/p>\n<p>Ancak 2007 y\u0131l\u0131nda, uzun konu\u015fmalardan sonra embriyolar\u0131n imha edilmesi i\u00e7in gereken belgeleri birlikte imzalad\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130kimiz de art\u0131k ikinci bir \u00e7ocuk sahibi olmayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kabullenmi\u015ftik.<\/p>\n<p>Haziran 2026\u2019da, 63 ya\u015f\u0131nda emekli oldu\u011fumda, b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar uzak bir ge\u00e7mi\u015fin par\u00e7alar\u0131yd\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>O g\u00fcnlerde alt karn\u0131mda ge\u00e7meyen bir bask\u0131 hissetmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131n hastal\u0131klar\u0131 ve do\u011fum uzman\u0131 Doktor Aylin\u2019e gittim. Ultrason muayenesinde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir kist g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc. Doktorum ek de\u011ferlendirme yaparken ge\u00e7mi\u015f ameliyatlar\u0131m\u0131 sordu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c2008\u2019de bir ameliyat ge\u00e7irmi\u015fsiniz. Ne ameliyat\u0131yd\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u0130\u00e7 kanama olmu\u015ftu. Tam olarak bilmiyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Doktor Aylin ka\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7att\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cUltrasonla y\u0131llar \u00f6nce yap\u0131lan i\u015flemin b\u00fct\u00fcn ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 anlayamam. Ameliyat raporunu g\u00f6rmem gerekiyor.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Eve d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde do\u011fruca Sel\u00e7uk\u2019un kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDoktor ameliyat raporumu istiyor.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Y\u00fcz\u00fc bir anda soldu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNeden \u015fimdi soruyorlar?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bana ne yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmiyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cO zaman \u00e7ok hastayd\u0131n.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSel\u00e7uk, ben hangi ameliyat\u0131 ge\u00e7irdim?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6zlerini pencereden d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7evirdi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNermin\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDosyalar\u0131 getir.\u201d<\/p>\n"},"alt_text":"","media_type":"image","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","media_details":{"width":784,"height":519,"file":"2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg","filesize":395624,"sizes":{"medium":{"file":"ggtr-2-300x199.jpg","width":300,"height":199,"filesize":25377,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-300x199.jpg"},"thumbnail":{"file":"ggtr-2-150x150.jpg","width":150,"height":150,"filesize":12197,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-150x150.jpg"},"medium_large":{"file":"ggtr-2-768x508.jpg","width":768,"height":508,"filesize":105365,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2-768x508.jpg"},"full":{"file":"ggtr-2.jpg","width":784,"height":519,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg"}},"image_meta":{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0","keywords":[],"alt":""}},"post":1704,"source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/ggtr-2.jpg","filename":"ggtr-2.jpg","filesize":395624,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1705","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/attachment"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1705"}],"wp:attached-to":[{"embeddable":true,"post_type":"post","id":1704,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}