{"id":544,"date":"2026-09-17T21:59:03","date_gmt":"2026-09-17T21:59:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg"},"modified":"2026-09-17T21:59:28","modified_gmt":"2026-09-17T21:59:28","slug":"img122","status":"inherit","type":"attachment","link":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/kizim-koreli-bir-adamla-evlendikten-sonra-onu-ziyaret-etmek-icin-guney-koreye-gittim\/img122\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0131z\u0131m Koreli bir adamla evlendikten sonra onu ziyaret etmek i\u00e7in G\u00fcney Kore\u2019ye gittim"},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"class_list":["post-544","attachment","type-attachment","status-inherit","hentry"],"description":{"rendered":"<p class=\"attachment\"><a href='https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-300x300.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n"},"caption":{"rendered":"<p>Nehir\u2019in \u00e7evresinden gelebilecek maddi deste\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta evlilik karar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7inde \u00e7\u0131kar oldu\u011funu\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ama zamanla ona ger\u00e7ekten \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funu\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Nehir hi\u00e7bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemeden dinledi.<\/p>\n<p>Ji-ho son s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bitirdi\u011finde odada uzun bir sessizlik oldu.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra Nehir aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBana neden hi\u00e7 s\u00f6ylemedin?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ji-ho\u2019nun g\u00f6zleri doldu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc seni kaybetmekten korktum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nehir ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBeni kaybetmekten de\u011fil, ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimde seni se\u00e7ip se\u00e7meyece\u011fimden korktun.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ji-ho cevap veremedi.<\/p>\n<p>Nehir yan\u0131m\u0131za gelip elimi tuttu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnne, sen bunu ne zaman \u00f6\u011frendin?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBu gece.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6zlerimin i\u00e7ine bakt\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPeki bana neden hemen s\u00f6ylemedin?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc senin ad\u0131na karar vermek istemedim. Ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frenme hakk\u0131n\u0131n sana ait oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nehir uzun s\u00fcre d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra Ji-ho\u2019ya d\u00f6nd\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u015eu anda senden nefret etmiyorum. Ama sana eskisi gibi g\u00fcvenemem.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ji-ho\u2019nun g\u00f6zlerinden ya\u015flar s\u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBiliyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nehir o gece Ji-ho\u2019dan birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn ayr\u0131 kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi. Ben de yan\u0131nda kalmaya karar verdim.<\/p>\n<p>Ertesi sabah mutfakta kahvalt\u0131 haz\u0131rlarken Nehir yan\u0131ma geldi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnne,\u201d dedi, \u201csence insanlar ilk ba\u015fta yanl\u0131\u015f bir sebeple ba\u015flay\u0131p sonra ger\u00e7ekten sevebilir mi?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Elimdeki b\u0131\u00e7a\u011f\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSevebilir,\u201d dedim. \u201cAma ger\u00e7ek sevgi, ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n hatay\u0131 sonsuza kadar gizlemek de\u011fildir. Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, kar\u015f\u0131ndaki insan\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilmesine ra\u011fmen se\u00e7im yapmas\u0131na izin vermektir.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nehir g\u00f6zlerini sildi.<\/p>\n<p>Aradan haftalar ge\u00e7ti.<\/p>\n<p>Ji-ho ailesiyle birlikte b\u00fct\u00fcn bor\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 ve ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki yalanlar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ortaya koydu. Nehir ise acele etmeden kendi karar\u0131n\u0131 verdi.<\/p>\n<p>Bir s\u00fcre sonra Ji-ho yeniden kar\u015f\u0131ma \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 e\u011ferek benden \u00f6z\u00fcr diledi.<\/p>\n<p>Ben ona yaln\u0131zca \u015funu s\u00f6yledim:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cK\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 seviyorsan art\u0131k onu kand\u0131rarak de\u011fil, ger\u00e7e\u011fi s\u00f6yleyerek sev.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nehir ve Ji-ho evliliklerine hemen eskisi gibi devam etmedi. \u00d6nce g\u00fcvenlerini yeniden kurmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fini kabul ettiler.<\/p>\n<p>Aylar sonra k\u0131z\u0131m beni arad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda sesi ilk kez huzurluydu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnne,\u201d dedi, \u201cart\u0131k onun beni neden se\u00e7ti\u011fini biliyorum. As\u0131l \u00f6nemli olan, ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendikten sonra benim onu neden se\u00e7ti\u011fimi biliyor olmam.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>O gece anlad\u0131m ki bazen bir evlili\u011fi ayakta tutan \u015fey hi\u00e7 yalan s\u00f6ylememek de\u011fil, en b\u00fcy\u00fck yalan ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131ktan sonra bile ger\u00e7e\u011fin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda durabilmektir.<\/p>\n<p>Ben G\u00fcney Kore\u2019ye k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 ziyaret etmek i\u00e7in gitmi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Ama oradan d\u00f6nerken yaln\u0131zca k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n evlili\u011finin s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil, sevginin ger\u00e7ek anlam\u0131n\u0131 da \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olarak d\u00f6n\u00fcyordum.<\/p>\n"},"alt_text":"","media_type":"image","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","media_details":{"width":1024,"height":1024,"file":"2026\/09\/img122.jpg","filesize":141256,"sizes":{"medium":{"file":"img122-300x300.jpg","width":300,"height":300,"filesize":18708,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-300x300.jpg"},"thumbnail":{"file":"img122-150x150.jpg","width":150,"height":150,"filesize":6360,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-150x150.jpg"},"medium_large":{"file":"img122-768x768.jpg","width":768,"height":768,"filesize":88019,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-768x768.jpg"},"full":{"file":"img122.jpg","width":1024,"height":1024,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg"}},"image_meta":{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0","keywords":[],"alt":""}},"post":542,"source_url":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg","filename":"img122.jpg","filesize":141256,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/544","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/attachment"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=544"}],"wp:attached-to":[{"embeddable":true,"post_type":"post","id":542,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}