{"id":542,"date":"2026-09-17T21:59:35","date_gmt":"2026-09-17T21:59:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/?p=542"},"modified":"2026-09-17T21:59:35","modified_gmt":"2026-09-17T21:59:35","slug":"kizim-koreli-bir-adamla-evlendikten-sonra-onu-ziyaret-etmek-icin-guney-koreye-gittim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/kizim-koreli-bir-adamla-evlendikten-sonra-onu-ziyaret-etmek-icin-guney-koreye-gittim\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0131z\u0131m Koreli bir adamla evlendikten sonra onu ziyaret etmek i\u00e7in G\u00fcney Kore\u2019ye gittim"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style>\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 33%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-542 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/kizim-koreli-bir-adamla-evlendikten-sonra-onu-ziyaret-etmek-icin-guney-koreye-gittim\/9999999-2\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/9999999-1-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-543\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-543'>\n\t\t\t\tKap\u0131n\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda so\u011fuk hava y\u00fcz\u00fcme \u00e7arpt\u0131 ama i\u00e7imdeki ate\u015fi s\u00f6nd\u00fcremedi. Telefonumu titreyen ellerimle a\u00e7\u0131p Nehir\u2019i aramak \u00fczereydim ki i\u00e7eriden bir sandalye sesi geldi.\n\nBir an durdum.\n\nJi-ho\u2019nun babas\u0131n\u0131n konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 hen\u00fcz tam olarak anlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Duydu\u011fum birka\u00e7 c\u00fcmle beynimde d\u00f6n\u00fcp duruyordu.\n\n\u201cOnunla neden evlendi\u011fimi biliyorsun.\u201d\n\n\u201cTam olarak neye ihtiyac\u0131m oldu\u011funu da biliyorsun.\u201d\n\n\u201cKimse bunu \u00f6\u011frenemez.\u201d\n\nBu s\u00f6zlerin ne anlama geldi\u011fini \u00e7\u00f6zmeden k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 aramak istemiyordum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yanl\u0131\u015f anlad\u0131ysam, Nehir\u2019in y\u0131llard\u0131r mutlu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm evlili\u011fini bir anda y\u0131kabilirdim.\n\nBen soka\u011f\u0131n k\u00f6\u015fesinde beklerken i\u00e7eriden konu\u015fmalar yeniden y\u00fckseldi.\n\nBu kez kap\u0131n\u0131n tam kapanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark ettim.\n\nSessizce geri d\u00f6nd\u00fcm ve antrede durarak dinlemeye ba\u015flad\u0131m.\n\nSung-ho\u2019nun sesi bu kez daha sakindi.\n\n\u201cArt\u0131k ona ger\u00e7e\u011fi s\u00f6ylemelisin. Nehir\u2019in seni h\u00e2l\u00e2 sevdi\u011fini g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor musun?\u201d\n\nJi-ho bir s\u00fcre cevap vermedi.\n\nSonra derin bir nefes ald\u0131.\n\n\u201cBen onu hi\u00e7bir zaman kullanmak istemedim.\u201d\n\nBabas\u0131 sert\u00e7e cevap verdi.\n\n\u201cAma kulland\u0131n.\u201d\n\nBu kelimeyi duyunca kalbim s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\nJi-ho konu\u015fmaya devam etti.\n\n\u201cEvlendi\u011fimizde her \u015fey farkl\u0131yd\u0131. Babam\u0131n \u015firketi iflas\u0131n e\u015fi\u011findeydi. Bankalar bizi s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yordu. Annemin tedavisi i\u00e7in para gerekiyordu. Nehir\u2019in \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015firketin benim i\u015fime yat\u0131r\u0131m yapma ihtimali oldu\u011funu biliyordum.\u201d\n\nSung-ho\u2019nun sesi titredi.\n\n\u201cBunun i\u00e7in onunla m\u0131 evlendin?\u201d\n\n\u201cBa\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta evet.\u201d\n\nO anda g\u00f6zlerimi kapatt\u0131m.\n\nSanki birisi g\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcm\u00fcn i\u00e7ine ta\u015f doldurmu\u015ftu.\n\nNehir\u2019in y\u0131llard\u0131r sevgi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyin arkas\u0131nda hesap oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek bile dayan\u0131lmazd\u0131.\n\nAma Ji-ho hemen ard\u0131ndan ba\u015fka bir \u015fey s\u00f6yledi.\n\n\u201cFakat sonra ona ger\u00e7ekten \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldum.\u201d\n\nBabas\u0131 sustu.\n\nJi-ho devam etti.\n\n\u201c\u0130lk ba\u015fta plan\u0131m basitti. Nehir\u2019le evlenecek, onun \u00e7evresinden destek bulacak ve ailemi kurtaracakt\u0131m. Ama sonra onun nas\u0131l biri oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Annemi hastanede yaln\u0131z b\u0131rakmad\u0131. Babam\u0131n bor\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde beni su\u00e7lamad\u0131. Hatta kendi birikimini kullanarak annemin ameliyat masraflar\u0131n\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6dedi.\u201d\n\nBir an nefesimi tuttum.\n\nBu s\u00f6yledikleri beni daha da \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\nSung-ho yava\u015f\u00e7a sordu:\n\n\u201cPeki neden h\u00e2l\u00e2 sakl\u0131yorsun?\u201d\n\nJi-ho\u2019nun cevab\u0131 uzun bir sessizli\u011fin ard\u0131ndan geldi.\n\n\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onun bana yard\u0131m etmesinin sebebini \u00f6\u011frenmesini istemiyorum.\u201d\n\n\u201cNe demek istiyorsun?\u201d\n\n\u201cBenimle evlendi\u011finde onu sevdi\u011fime inan\u0131yordu. Oysa ilk aylarda ger\u00e7ekten onu bir \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f yolu olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyordum. E\u011fer bunu \u00f6\u011frenirse, sonradan ona duydu\u011fum ger\u00e7ek sevgimin bile sahte oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnecek.\u201d\n\nSung-ho derin bir nefes verdi.\n\n\u201cBunu \u00f6\u011frenmek onun hakk\u0131.\u201d\n\nJi-ho\u2019nun sesi \u00e7atlad\u0131.\n\n\u201cBiliyorum.\u201d\n\nTam o s\u0131rada ayak sesleri duydum ve h\u0131zla d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m.\n\nBirka\u00e7 dakika sonra Nehir\u2019in arabas\u0131 soka\u011f\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc.\n\nBeni terliklerle kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde g\u00f6r\u00fcnce \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131kla yan\u0131ma ko\u015ftu.\n\n\u201cAnne? Neden buradas\u0131n? Ne oldu?\u201d\n\nOna bakt\u0131m ama konu\u015famad\u0131m.\n\nY\u00fcz\u00fcne bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda y\u0131llar \u00f6nce k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocukken bana sar\u0131l\u0131p \u201cAnne, sen bana hi\u00e7 yalan s\u00f6ylemezsin, de\u011fil mi?\u201d diye sordu\u011fu g\u00fcn\u00fc hat\u0131rlad\u0131m.\n\n\u015eimdi verece\u011fim cevap, onun hayat\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirebilirdi.\n\n\u201cNehir,\u201d dedim sonunda, \u201cseninle \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u015fey konu\u015fmam gerekiyor.\u201d\n\nBeni eve ald\u0131.\n\nJi-ho bizi g\u00f6r\u00fcnce y\u00fcz\u00fc bembeyaz oldu. Beni g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc anda her \u015feyi anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark ettim.\n\n\u201cNe kadar\u0131n\u0131 duydunuz?\u201d diye sordu.\n\n\u201cYeterince,\u201d dedim.\n\nNehir ikimize \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131kla bakt\u0131.\n\n\u201cNe oluyor?\u201d\n\nJi-ho g\u00f6zlerini yere indirdi.\n\nSonra ilk kez, k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n g\u00f6zlerinin i\u00e7ine bakarak her \u015feyi anlatt\u0131.\n\nEvlili\u011finin ilk d\u00f6nemlerinde ailesinin bor\u00e7 i\u00e7inde oldu\u011funu\u2026\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/kizim-koreli-bir-adamla-evlendikten-sonra-onu-ziyaret-etmek-icin-guney-koreye-gittim\/img122\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-544\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/img122.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-544'>\n\t\t\t\tNehir\u2019in \u00e7evresinden gelebilecek maddi deste\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc\u2026\n\nBa\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta evlilik karar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7inde \u00e7\u0131kar oldu\u011funu\u2026\n\nAma zamanla ona ger\u00e7ekten \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funu\u2026\n\nNehir hi\u00e7bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemeden dinledi.\n\nJi-ho son s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bitirdi\u011finde odada uzun bir sessizlik oldu.\n\nSonra Nehir aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131.\n\n\u201cBana neden hi\u00e7 s\u00f6ylemedin?\u201d\n\nJi-ho\u2019nun g\u00f6zleri doldu.\n\n\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc seni kaybetmekten korktum.\u201d\n\nNehir ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131.\n\n\u201cBeni kaybetmekten de\u011fil, ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimde seni se\u00e7ip se\u00e7meyece\u011fimden korktun.\u201d\n\nJi-ho cevap veremedi.\n\nNehir yan\u0131m\u0131za gelip elimi tuttu.\n\n\u201cAnne, sen bunu ne zaman \u00f6\u011frendin?\u201d\n\n\u201cBu gece.\u201d\n\nG\u00f6zlerimin i\u00e7ine bakt\u0131.\n\n\u201cPeki bana neden hemen s\u00f6ylemedin?\u201d\n\n\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc senin ad\u0131na karar vermek istemedim. Ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frenme hakk\u0131n\u0131n sana ait oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm.\u201d\n\nNehir uzun s\u00fcre d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc.\n\nSonra Ji-ho\u2019ya d\u00f6nd\u00fc.\n\n\u201c\u015eu anda senden nefret etmiyorum. Ama sana eskisi gibi g\u00fcvenemem.\u201d\n\nJi-ho\u2019nun g\u00f6zlerinden ya\u015flar s\u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc.\n\n\u201cBiliyorum.\u201d\n\nNehir o gece Ji-ho\u2019dan birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn ayr\u0131 kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi. Ben de yan\u0131nda kalmaya karar verdim.\n\nErtesi sabah mutfakta kahvalt\u0131 haz\u0131rlarken Nehir yan\u0131ma geldi.\n\n\u201cAnne,\u201d dedi, \u201csence insanlar ilk ba\u015fta yanl\u0131\u015f bir sebeple ba\u015flay\u0131p sonra ger\u00e7ekten sevebilir mi?\u201d\n\nElimdeki b\u0131\u00e7a\u011f\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131m.\n\n\u201cSevebilir,\u201d dedim. \u201cAma ger\u00e7ek sevgi, ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n hatay\u0131 sonsuza kadar gizlemek de\u011fildir. Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, kar\u015f\u0131ndaki insan\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilmesine ra\u011fmen se\u00e7im yapmas\u0131na izin vermektir.\u201d\n\nNehir g\u00f6zlerini sildi.\n\nAradan haftalar ge\u00e7ti.\n\nJi-ho ailesiyle birlikte b\u00fct\u00fcn bor\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 ve ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki yalanlar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ortaya koydu. Nehir ise acele etmeden kendi karar\u0131n\u0131 verdi.\n\nBir s\u00fcre sonra Ji-ho yeniden kar\u015f\u0131ma \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 e\u011ferek benden \u00f6z\u00fcr diledi.\n\nBen ona yaln\u0131zca \u015funu s\u00f6yledim:\n\n\u201cK\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 seviyorsan art\u0131k onu kand\u0131rarak de\u011fil, ger\u00e7e\u011fi s\u00f6yleyerek sev.\u201d\n\nNehir ve Ji-ho evliliklerine hemen eskisi gibi devam etmedi. \u00d6nce g\u00fcvenlerini yeniden kurmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fini kabul ettiler.\n\nAylar sonra k\u0131z\u0131m beni arad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda sesi ilk kez huzurluydu.\n\n\u201cAnne,\u201d dedi, \u201cart\u0131k onun beni neden se\u00e7ti\u011fini biliyorum. As\u0131l \u00f6nemli olan, ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendikten sonra benim onu neden se\u00e7ti\u011fimi biliyor olmam.\u201d\n\nO gece anlad\u0131m ki bazen bir evlili\u011fi ayakta tutan \u015fey hi\u00e7 yalan s\u00f6ylememek de\u011fil, en b\u00fcy\u00fck yalan ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131ktan sonra bile ger\u00e7e\u011fin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda durabilmektir.\n\nBen G\u00fcney Kore\u2019ye k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 ziyaret etmek i\u00e7in gitmi\u015ftim.\n\nAma oradan d\u00f6nerken yaln\u0131zca k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n evlili\u011finin s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil, sevginin ger\u00e7ek anlam\u0131n\u0131 da \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olarak d\u00f6n\u00fcyordum.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl>\n\t\t\t<br style='clear: both' \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":543,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-542","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-foto-galeri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/542","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=542"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/542\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":545,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/542\/revisions\/545"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/543"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=542"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=542"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.denizcakmak.com\/hbr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}